An article published on Huffington post attracted a the drawbacks in the society of multi-culture , still not addressing the fine details social integration of modern Global Nations. When you are Tamil and say ‘ You are British, American or Canadian, still a question is asked about the origins as the generations of host nations still got a message in the question. In reality the societies are more of mixed world, where a people are born in different countries, adopted the multi-cultural societies , and disconnected with the origins but keep their own culture as part of multi-cultural world.

But what if your Indian Tamil family adopted White American kids and when kids and society throw questions at you. Family of Luxmy Iyer , a vegetarian Indian family has become an example of global society by adopting twin girls who are grown in their traditional way of eating meat. He says

“I look at her, at a loss for words. I am not sure what I am supposed to say. “Does it bother you that we do not eat meat?” I ask.” , Luxmy continues “I tell her that it is OK for Scarlett to eat meat just as it is OK for her to not eat it. Both are valid choices I insist. She seems to understand and we switch gears and talk about what they did during recess.”

“I am at the stove focusing on a rapidly thickening mass of jaggery, coconut and cardamom. I feel a tug at my sleeve and notice A standing on tiptoe watching me. I talk to her about food. I talk to her about customs. She listens, rarely asking questions.” He says.

On sofa the question asked “Am I Indian? , I ponder the question and tell her she is. am tempted to pull her to me, to explain she is American by birth, Native American by birth heritage and Indian by virtue of being raised by us.”

The struggle continues on race or colour he says. “We don’t talk much about race or color but it insinuates itself in tiny ways into our lives. In stick figure drawings”.

In a way his family is now a post for racial awareness. Checkout lines on groceries are trial runs to prepare his children for the harsh glare of the real world.

“Are they yours?”

“Where are their parents?”

“Are you their nanny?”

“What are they?”

He struggles with the questions of world around him.

“My answers to these questions define me to my children. Am I protective of their history? Am I teaching them to guard their personal space? Am I teaching them to stand up for themselves? Am I showing deference to their birth families? “

But he strongly believes , his children will walk into interviews and challenge assumptions made based on their name. They will walk the streets of Chennai and speak Tamil with consummate ease. They will make dosas with ease and know how to bake a mean banana bread. My children will bridge cultures and define themselves all over again as adults.

Read the real-life story on Huffington Post orgianlly found on Adoptivefamilies

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